Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Pay Attention On How People React To You

One way you can learn about yourself is to pay attention on how people react to your actions.

I have a "angry man resting face", which means that, even when I'm in a null mood, it looks like I'm angry.

I already had one meeting and which I started to ask something and noticed that the other person move a bit back. That's when I realized that didn't sound exactly how I meant. I had to add "I'm not saying what you're proposing is wrong, I'm just confused."

Also, I got a manager once come up with "I thought you were the serious person... till you suddenly started singing in the middle of a meeting"¹.

You need to keep an eye on this. How is people reacting to your reactions? Are they opening themselves to you or are they closing?